BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT A CURE FOR LONELINESS




I just finished having a phone conversation with a good friend who is complaining of feeling Lonely and she needs to start a new relationship with a man to stop feeling lonely. Mind you this is someone who just broke up with her Ex boyfriend after 2years of dating last week. I had to ask her, Girl won’t you want to give yourself time to heal and get over your Ex before starting another relationship? It is best you give yourself time to heal and get over your Ex so you don’t carry your baggage from your last relationship to go and bleed on the next innocent guy. 

My girlfriend said she is not an Introvert like me that loves and enjoys staying alone. Girl said she needs a man in her life to do away with loneliness and to help her forget about her Ex boyfriend quickly. 

There is nothing I hate more than to hear ladies complain of being lonely so they need a man to keep away loneliness? Do you know there are a lot of married men and women who complain of being lonely in their marriages? Ladies you need to know that being in a relationship or marriage can’t stop you from being lonely. Loneliness stems from not having something to do to occupy your mind and time. Instead of looking for random men to be in a relationship with. Learn how to love yourself and take pleasure in spending time alone.

Ladies, take pleasure in doing things by yourself. Being in a relationship with a man is never a cure for loneliness. A lot of women who go into relationships with men to cure loneliness end up being needy, clingy and desperate before the men. Men love to take advantage of desperate women. Ladies place premium value on loving yourself and your life. Do things for yourself without waiting for a man to do it. Take yourself out. Spoil yourself. Don’t be desperate to be with a man. The right and good man for you will find you at God’s appointed time. But till then love yourself.



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  1. AnonymousJune 19, 2024 at 6:59 PM

    Well said 🙏🏞I couldn’t agree more and besides if you don’t love your own company and cherish yourself to be by yourself, it’s hard to love anyone else at all or cherish the person enough!

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    1. AnonymousJune 19, 2024 at 7:09 PM

      Thank you so much.I appreciate you. God bless you.

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